7 Traits of a Narcissist: How to Recognize and Manage Relationships with Narcissistic Individuals So You Can Live Happy on Purpose!

Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. While not all narcissists exhibit the same traits, there are some common characteristics that many narcissists share. These traits can make it virtually impossible to want to be in their presence, which presents challenges when they happen to be close family members.

Here are seven traits of a narcissist and steps you can take to better manage the relationship with that person and minimize its negative impact on your own mental and emotional health.

1. Grandiosity: Narcissists have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe they are superior to others. They often exaggerate their achievements and talents and expect special treatment.

2. Lack of empathy: Narcissists have difficulty understanding or caring about the feelings of others. They may take advantage of others to achieve their own goals and may not be remorseful when they hurt others.

3. Need for admiration: Narcissists have a constant need for admiration and validation. They may become angry or upset if they don't receive the attention they feel they deserve.

4. Sense of entitlement: Narcissists believe that they deserve special privileges and may become angry or aggressive when they don't receive them. They may also expect others to cater to their every need.

5. Exploitative: Narcissists may use others for their own gain without regard for the consequences or feelings of others.

6. Manipulative: Narcissists are often skilled at manipulating others to get what they want. They may use charm, flattery, or even deceit to get what they want.

7. Inability to handle criticism: Narcissists have fragile egos and cannot handle criticism or rejection. They may react with anger, aggression, or even violence when they are criticized.

Managing a relationship with a narcissist can be challenging at best, but there are steps you can take to protect yourself and maintain healthy boundaries.

1. Set boundaries: Make it clear to the narcissist that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it. Be specific about the behavior and clear about the boundary. In my book, BOLD MOVES - Take Back Your Power, Reclaim Your Peace, and Live Happy on Purpose, I detail Boundary Framework that might serve you well.

2. Don't engage in arguments: Narcissists thrive on drama and conflict, so avoid getting into arguments with them. You may notice that when things are going "well," the narcissist will intentionally instigate an argument. It's a power position for them. The best thing you can do is not engage,

3. Don't take it personally: Remember that the narcissist's behavior is never about you, it's about them. The things that say to hurt you are direct reflections of how they feel about themselves on the inside.

4. Seek support: Surround yourself with people who support you and can offer you a different perspective. In other words, surround yourself with positive and supportive energy. If you feel like you don't have those in your life right now, it's your job to seek them out and nurture them. Know someone you admire from afar? Call them up and invite them to lunch!

5. Be assertive: Stand up for yourself and don't let the narcissist take advantage of you. This is also called ENFORCING your boundaries. Don't permit them to be crossed. What you allow will continue.

6. Limit contact: If possible, limit your contact with the narcissist to reduce the negative impact they have on your life. This can be hard at first, but given time it becomes easier simply because you notice how much better you feel not in their proximity!

7. Seek professional help: If you're struggling to cope with a narcissist in your life, consider seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling. Sometimes the impact of a narcissist over a long period of time can cause so many emotional and mental wounds that it simply requires help processing and working through. There's nothing wrong with this. In fact, it takes courage and it's one of the best things you can do for yourself.

It's important to remember that narcissistic behavior is not your fault and that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. By setting boundaries, seeking support, and being assertive, you can take steps to protect yourself and maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissist.

BOLD MOVES - Take Back Your Power, Reclaim Your Peace, and Live Happy on Purpose, is about managing narcissistic and toxic relationships in life. It's a journey of learning, personal growth, and exercises that you can work through. The goal is to empower your mindset and help you find joy in life away from those relationships. 

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